The Significance of a Trash Can

20 Dec

Three months!  That’s how long Jody has had his new lungs.  In some ways it seems like it was just yesterday when we received that much-anticipated phone call, and in other ways it feels like a lifetime ago.  Who knew ones life could change so drastically in such a short period of time?

This past week I began reflecting on some of this and am only now realizing just how sick Jody was before his transplant.  Infections, hospitalizations, shortness of breath, oxygen tanks, doctors appointments, limitations; they were our norm.  I had forgotten what it was like to live a life not dictated by disease.  I grieved the lives we once lived before CF took over, but at the same time, the longer we lived that new life the more I became comfortable with it and it felt like normal (even though I knew it wasn’t).  I’m only now realizing just how much I subconsciously worried about Jody during this period. People living with Cystic Fibrosis take their final breath each and every day, often not making it to the point of transplant.  I’m SO grateful to the team of people who took care of Jody during these years of decline.  I’m thankful for the way they valued his life and cared about him as well as for the wisdom they displayed in knowing the right time to start the transplant process (even though at the time it was a scary and overwhelming option).  Thank you, Lord, for placing these people in our lives.

Over these last two years Jody has had to give up many responsibilities around the house as simple things, such as going up the stairs, became work in and of itself.  Jody was not happy to give up a lot of these things, nor was I always (or ever) happy to have these responsibilities added to my ever-increasing work load.  I can think of multiple times this past winter when after working a 12 hour shift I came home to our large driveway, full of snow, and knew I would be responsible to remove it.  This was the last thing I wanted to do after a long and tiring day.  I felt grumpy and irritated with the situation and missed Jody being able to help out with these things.  He, on the other hand, felt grumpy and irritated that he had to watch me (from inside the house) having ‘fun’ on our riding mower, snow blower attached, as I cleared the driveway (although I wouldn’t have called it ‘fun’).

Things like taking out the trash each week, filling the gas tanks in our vehicles, mowing the lawn, grocery shopping, running errands, laying our girls down for naps, or checking on them when they needed something or were being naughty (because those things required going up stairs), are just a few of the things Jody gave up.  I share this with you because three weeks ago I came home from work one afternoon (on trash night) and before I even pulled into our driveway I immediately noticed the trash cans sitting there, ready and waiting for pick-up the next morning.  It was a simple task with huge implications, and I was struck by it.  Jody is getting his life back!  The weight I have carried for so long is slowly but surely being lifted.  I am getting my helper back!

Despite the fact that things are going really well, I’m finding that it’s hard to give up something which had become so engrained in me.  It’s odd not to rush Jody to the car when we go outside in the cold, to let him go check on the girls upstairs, to send him out to pick something up at the store.  I have carried so much guilt for not being able to do enough and for making Jody do things that he probably shouldn’t have been doing, like taking care of our girls while I worked.  Any time my work phone rang and displayed a home number I found myself holding my breath and almost afraid to answer, fearing something was wrong (because sometimes it was).  Jody has never been a complainer but I knew his job as stay-at-home-dad (forced on him by disease progression) was not easy.  How could it be with 22% lung function?

It’s wonderful to share with you how much two new lungs have changed our lives.  Jody has more energy than I have seen in years.  I can leave for work in the morning without guilt because I know that he is more than capable of caring for our children while I am gone.  When I come home I hear stories of all the fun things they did that day and I smile and think to myself how thankful I am for organ donation.

There is so much more I could share with you in this post about how our lives are changing (and it’s only been three months).  I don’t feel like I’ve done a very good job of expressing the change in mindset CF and transplant have played in our lives.  It’s hard to put into words the way I feel in my head and heart but hopefully you have somewhat of an understanding of this.  Just as it took time to adjust to the ‘loss’ of life as Jody’s CF progressed, so too will it take time to adjust to this rebirth of life (although I think this will be less of an adjustment since we’re gaining rather than giving up).  While I believe Jody will beat the odds of transplant I feel cautious to jump in with wholehearted belief that this positive change in our lives is here to stay.  Having given up so much in the name of disease it somehow seems easier if I keep myself prepared for the worst.  I don’t know if you could call this being guarded or just being realistic?  Conversations like we had this week in clinic about hospitalizations and viruses, especially those which can cause a rapid, drastic decrease in lung function do not make it easier for me to believe this new life is here to stay.  Regardless, the changes I am seeing in Jody right now are amazing!

Now for a brief medical update.  Last Friday (12/12) Jody had a routine three-month bronchoscopy done.  He was put to sleep for this procedure so a scope could be inserted through his mouth and into his lungs.  They were then ‘washed’ and checked for rejection and infection.  I am glad to report that he has neither of those!  Additionally, the damage that was displayed after Jody’s aspiration in the hospital has been resolved. One more good thing to share… Jody’s lung function this week hit 91.4% (and that’s after the bronch when doctors expect to see a temporary decrease in function)!  He wanted to hit 90% by Christmas and he did.  We praise God for all these good reports and are cautiously optimistic that they will continue.

I’ll end with a photo collage of a family outing we recently took to Dutch Winter Wonderland, a local amusement park for kids.  These tickets were gifted to us and would not have been possible if it weren’t for Jody’s new lungs.  It has been a long time since we did something like this and we look forward to many more of these outing where precious, lasting, memories can be made.

Family Fun @ Dutch Winter Wonderland.

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13 Responses to “The Significance of a Trash Can”

  1. Sheryl December 20, 2014 at 10:03 am #

    This makes me happy…… Seeing more”normal” coming back into your lives.

  2. Sharon Adams December 20, 2014 at 10:35 am #

    So happy for the good news and the smiles on everyone’s face says it all !!

  3. Dianne December 20, 2014 at 11:18 am #

    Those pictures bring tears of joy to my eyes! So happy to see you out enjoying family time together with no oxygen tank any more! Praise God! Merry Christmas!

  4. Marilyn Titter December 20, 2014 at 11:54 am #

    Beautiful. All I have wished for you are in your words. May you have the Merriest of Christmas’s and the the Healthiest of New Year’s possible. My prayers for all of you continue.
    Love,
    Marilyn
    PS I feel you and Johns Hopkins have given me a Christmas gift!

  5. Pam December 20, 2014 at 12:24 pm #

    WOW! It is surely a blessing to see you all looking so happy and healthy. This priceless gift of life is restoring you to a new norm. It’s OK, Tiffany, to feel the need to enter this new phase with caution. It would be hard to throw all those learned fears out the window. But, it’s a new day and a new life…live it up and be happy! This Christmas all is well! Blessings to you all!

  6. dlnolt6@frontiernet.net December 20, 2014 at 3:20 pm #

    So happy to hear the good report! Blessings to you all over the holiday season!                                      Dennis and Linda

  7. Anne Marcarelli December 20, 2014 at 4:00 pm #

    I am so very happy for all of you! Thank God for all His goodness to us!
    Ps. Thanks for taking such good care of Meg and Olivia!

  8. Rich Ragan December 20, 2014 at 5:03 pm #

    Tiff you are an amazing and very gifted woman. I am so inspired by both you and Jody. So inspired, grateful, and humbled to know you both. Rich

  9. Rich Ragan December 20, 2014 at 5:05 pm #

    One more thing Tiff. Men do cry when so deeply touched by people like both of you! Rich

  10. Lisa Weems December 20, 2014 at 5:07 pm #

    Such wonderful news! We wish you all a very Merry Christmas! Everyone looks so great and happy! : )
    Lisa & Kevin

  11. klesh99 December 21, 2014 at 9:03 pm #

    There are no words :). What a wonderful post.

  12. Ruthie December 22, 2014 at 5:27 am #

    My heart is filled with praise and gratitude to the Lord as I read this post! Thanks for sharing once again! Prayers of thanksgiving for this immeasurable blessing, and health for all of you continue!

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